Mission Marriage Care??Posted: October 4, 2010
I had a conversation with a friend the other day about marriages in crisis. She notified me of a referral headed my way…and then noted that she is aware of about ten marriages in crisis. “People talk to me,” she said. Likely because of her welcoming aura, her love, and steadfastness. They go to her. I have no doubt she gave them wonderful support,the priceless gift of a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on, but what about something that they could take and use…and benefit from…without seeing a therapist? I don’t want to work myself out of a job by any means…but what if I could somehow help others help others?
I think of Justin’s ability to have created so many different leaders in our church. People know that he is not the only one they can go to…people know he is not the only one needed in order for the church to function. He did that by empowering the people in our church…empowering them to realize their spiritual gifts and step up.
What if…I could help empower individuals to minister to marriages in crisis? Perhaps I could help give others some basic tools to give out…what if each marriage out there knew AT MINIMUM one other couple who was grounded in their commitment to one another, and who felt safe and secure enough to share their wisdom with others? There would need to be an element of training perhaps, on listening, asking good question, and pointing in positive directions…obviously not as intense as schooling, more along the lines of coaching…mentoring…Marriage Mentors…
In a time when money is tight…when not everyone is comfortable seeking out a therapist…and in a society that is so dang individualistic…wouldn’t it be nice for people to be able to turn to a community that could lift their marriages up? Churches may be the place for some…but not for all. Marriage Mentors…contagious?